Your Fear of Being Seen is Keeping You Small and Raising Your BP.

new handwritten letter + new video inside →

I wrote this letter for you a week ago.

All I had to do was press send. But I didn’t.

I’ve had this new music video uploaded to YouTube for more than 2 weeks now.

All I had to do was set a premiere date and hit publish.

I didn’t.

There are other things like this.

A piece of content I did not publish. A podcast episode I never released. A book I started writing but didn’t finish. A business idea I was excited about but never launched.

If you think you’re alone in this, I promise you’re not. Even those who look absolutely confident like they’ve got it all together, often fall short too.

image: The Swaddle

A call to stop bullshitting yourself

In meditation the other day, I heard these words so clear in my head: “Your fear of being seen is keeping you small.”

Ironically, I’m the self-proclaimed life of the party. I’m the one who has a career in entertainment. I’m the one who is supposed to be confident and in everybody’s faces.

While I may be all of those things, I’m also the one who can shudder in fear and hide my gifts too. Apparently, the fear of being seen is a real thing and so many people suffer this, especially in these current times when being seen is part of our social program.

I wish I could write to you and tell you I have a solution, or give you tips that will help. But the best I can share for now is the same thing I have learned to live by: NOBODY CARES.

Left alone in our own little bubble in this vast universe, we like to think we are all that. We think of ourselves as important and that the rest of the world is watching us (The spotlight effect).

The unfortunate reality is, nobody cares. Everyone else is facing their own unique problems and trying to get their lives together.

People care to the extent that you care about them.. that means to the extent that what you do benefits them in some way. Beyond that, everyone else is just dealing with their own piece of the bullshit pie that life serves.

So while you’re worrying about what people would think, or if this is the right time to launch your thing, to create your art, to build your business, to grow your personal brand… or whatever else has got you up at night, remember: people are not thinking about you as much as you think.

They just don’t care.

What’s helping me is the same thing that’s helped me for as long as I’ve battled this: JUMP.

I just close my eyes and jump in spite of the fear.

No matter how many songs I release, I still experience this when a new release is coming. No matter how many newsletters I have written, when it’s time to send a new letter, I twiddle my thumbs and swallow dry spit in fear.

But I catch myself and I say to myself, just frigging do it!

Time will pass anyway, whether you do or you don’t. The annoying reality is, while you’re stopping yourself from doing the thing, others who are not half as good as you are doing it and shinning!

Imagine that!

Oh! And sidebar: Your fear of being seen is proof that there is nothing but good things and great rewards on the other side of letting people see you. But you’ll never know if you keep hiding.

Remember that.

Moving on with more confidence, here’s a letter below I wrote you last week.

And the brand new music video for “I LOOK GOOD” is here! I’m so very excited for you to finally watch this one.

I haven’t made an official music video in a while so this is special. 💘

You don’t want to miss the LIVE YouTube premiere this Sunday at 9PM WAT! I’ll be throwing an exclusive Giveaway in the chats during the premiere on Sunday so click here now to set a reminder to Join us Live.

Shine yourself.

Love,

E.